THE DEFINITION OF PERFECTION: a person or thing considered to be perfect.
This definition, for me, hits the nail on the head. 'Considered' is the key word here because perfection is in the eye of the beholder. Although society shoves us into this mindset of the perfect girl being skinny with a thigh gap, perfect jaw and cheek bones, all beauty is subjective and everyone is attracted to different things. All figure types have the potential to be considered beautiful. Beauty is subjective, yes, but it's also perceptive. Ideas of beauty are internalised, especially when they're shouted at us from every angle.
Stereoptypes are hard to shake off. At this point in our development as a society the body stereotype is specific, it's uniform, meaning lack of body diversity is stifling. Women who fit this type, such as models, make up a tiny percentage of society and of beauty and it is just what is the popular figure type currently. This doesn't mean other body types are any less wonderful and beautiful in their own specific way. What it means is that trends change and corporations move with the body type that sells, the body type that's idealised. For instance, in the 60's it was popular to be size 12-16 and to be curvy.
Trends change but there will always be a multitude of figure types and there will always be a favourite figure, meaning that all the others will be left out. It does not mean that one is better than the other, it just means that people are looking out for that at the time. But it will not be like this forever, especially if we spark a new attitude.
The whole 'love your body' thing is said a lot, it's not a new message. But it's said in a way that lacks substance, and that frankly, can't compete with the lack of body diversity in our media. We need to step up.
What we're saying here is change your mindset, unlearn internalised ideas of beauty.
Look at yourself in the mirror, admire the colour of your eyes and the shape of your lips, learn to recognise your flaws and brush them off as things you have been subconsciously taught to dislike. Because guess what? They're nothing more than that.
"Imperfection is beauty"- Marilyn Monroe.
Marilyn is right, Marilyn was beautiful, arguably one if the most influential women in the beauty world, and guess what!? She was a size 14. Nothing is perfect, she probably wouldn't have been given a run in the world we live in today, and how could this be? I guess what I am trying to say is that the world in unfair and a lot if the time the world doesn't know what it wants. So your flaws could be flaws today or assets tomorrow.
Don't label separate parts of your body, because you come as a whole person and as long as you are healthy and have respect for yourself, others will ensue.
From yours truly,