Sunday, 19 April 2015

slut shaming // NOT OKAY!!



What is Slut Shaming: Calling a woman any name associated with the word slut because of the way she dresses, her sexual habits or her flirtatious personality. 
Making women apologise for having power in their sexuality is a tool to oppress women, when really women are just behaving the way that men have alway been allowed. The kind of things that make men uncomfortable in a woman are usually the very things that define men’s actions: 

Case 1: Sexual freedom
For a long time men have been able to do whatever the fuck they want or more specifically fuck whoever they want. Women were expected to sit around and wait for a man to come along. During Victorian times women weren’t even meant to orgasm. Obviously things have improved since then but there is a constant theme that continues to oppress women’s right to sleep around. This is mostly perpetrated by other women

Case 2: Flirting
Flirting is fun. Case closed. No, but in all seriousness it is something that we do to express our emotions and to make connections. Why should women have to apologise for things that make us so human. Unofficial case study: Imagine. A guy and a girl are together at a party. The girl is on one side of the room flirting with multiple guys, the other girls in the room exchange side-glances at one another with bitchy undertones. The guy is off to the other side of the room flirting with multiple girls… No one blinks and eye. This idea is explored in Beyonce’s If I were a boy film clip. (<— Go watch it now!)

The slut shaming culture is born from an early age, from media exposure and other people. Women internalise ideas of a perfect woman from this exposure and it becomes internalised misogyny. This leads to girl hate and us girls have got to stick together and help each other be positive. Sexual freedom and experimentation is a fantastic way to feel good about yourself. We shouldn’t have to apologise for that.

So what’s the end game you ask? What should I take from this?
Start to question yourself and your values. Try to unlearn internalised misogyny. Radiate Positivity. Look out for your girls and accept what they are doing. There are already people out their trying to make women apologise for having fun and having equal rights. Don’t be one of them.

We refuse to apologise for having fun,

Bea Tucks and Bella Sucks.

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